But the experiences of mixed-race Americans can be vastly different. Many mixed-race youths say they feel wider acceptance than past generations, particularly on college campuses and in pop culture. Extensive interviews and days spent with the Greenwoods show that, when they are alone, the family strives to be colorblind. But what they face outside their home is another story. People seem to notice nothing but race. Strangers gawk. Make rude and racist comments. Tell offensive jokes. Ask impolite questions.
Or, in the case of a newspaper writing an
outstanding ongoing series about the lives of mixed-raced people in America, using a word like “intermarriage” when writing about those families. On the spectrum of phrases used to describe marriage between two people of different races, “intermarriage” is probably as offensive as tapioca pudding. And yet, calling it “intermarriage” is about as terrible a word choice as you can find, loaded with a mess of ugly connotations around purity and bigotry. I’m pretty sure
the Greenwoods didn’t check a special box when they got hitched, they called it the same thing as anyone else: marriage.